Wednesday, February 10, 2016

Five Ways to Boost Your Natural Happy Chemicals

You can trigger more happy chemicals naturally. Here’s how.
You can stimulate more happy chemicals with fewer side effects when you understand the job your happy chemicals evolved to do. Here’s a natural way to stimulate each, and to avoid unhappy chemicals.

#1 Dopamine (Embrace a new goal)

Approaching a reward triggers dopamine. When a lion approaches a gazelle, her dopamine surges and the energy she needs for the hunt is released. Your ancestors released dopamine when they found a water hole. The good feeling surged before they actually sipped the water.
Just seeing signs of a water-hole turned on the dopamine. Just smelling a gazelle turns on dopamine. The expectation of a reward triggers a good feeling in the mammal brain, and releases the energy you need to reach the reward.
Dopamine alerts your attention to things that meet your needs. How you define your needs depends on your unique life experience. Each time dopamine flowed in your youth, it connected neurons in your brain. Now you’re wired you to meet your needs in ways that felt good in your past.
Dopamine motivates you to seek, whether you’re seeking a medical degree or a parking spot near the donut shop. Dopamine motivates persistence in the pursuit of things that meet your needs, whether it’s a bar that’s open late, the next level in a video game, or a way to feed children. You can stimulate the good feeling of dopamine without behaviors that hurt your best interests.
Embrace a new goal and take small steps toward it every day. Your brain will reward you with dopamine each time you take a step. The repetition will build a new dopamine pathway until it’s big enough to compete with the dopamine habit that you’re better off without.

#2 Serotonin (Believe in yourself)

Confidence triggers serotonin. Monkeys try to one-up each other because it stimulates their serotonin. People often do the same. This brain we’ve inherited rewards social dominance because that promotes your genes in the state of nature.
As much as you may dislike this, you enjoy the good feeling of serotonin when you feel respected by others.
Your brain seeks more of that feeling by repeating behaviors that triggered it in your past. The respect you got in your youth paved neural pathways that tell your brain how to get respect today.
Sometimes people seek it in ways that undermine their long-term well-being. The solution is not to dismiss your natural urge for status, because you need the serotonin.
Instead, you can develop your belief in your own worth. People are probably respecting you behind your back right now. Focus on that instead of scanning for disrespect.
Everyone has wins and losses. If you focus on your losses you will depress your serotonin, even if you’re a rock star or a CEO. You can build the habit of focusing on your wins. You may think it’s cocky or risky or lame, but your serotonin will suffer if you don’t.

#3 Oxytocin (Build trust consciously)

Trust triggers oxytocin. Mammals stick with a herd because they inherited a brain that releases oxytocin when they do. Reptiles cannot stand the company of other reptiles, so it’s not surprising that they only release oxytocin during sex.
Social bonds help mammals protect their young from predators, and natural selection built a brain that rewards us with a good feeling when we strengthen those bonds.
Sometimes your trust is betrayed. Trusting someone who is not trustworthy is bad for your survival. Your brain releases unhappy chemicals when your trust is betrayed.
That paves neural pathways which tell you when to withhold trust in the future. But if you withhold trust all the time, you deprive yourself of oxytocin.
You can stimulate it by building trust consciously. Create realistic expectations that both parties can meet. Each time your expectations are met, your brain rewards you with a good feeling. Continual small steps will build your oxytocin circuits. Trust, verify, and repeat. You will grow to trust yourself as well as others.

#4 Endorphin (Make time to stretch and laugh)

Pain causes endorphin. That’s not what you expect when you hear about the “endorphin high.” But runners don’t get that high unless they push past their limits to the point of distress.


Endorphin causes a brief euphoria that masks pain. In the state of nature, it helps an injured animal escape from a predator. It helped our ancestors run for help when injured. Endorphin evolved for survival, not for partying. If you were high on endorphin all the time, you would touch hot stoves and walk on broken legs.
Endorphin was meant for emergencies. Inflicting harm on yourself to stimulate endorphin is a bad survival strategy. Fortunately, there are better ways: laughing and stretching. Both of these jiggle your innards in irregular ways, causing moderate wear and tear and moderate endorphin flow.
This strategy has its limits. A genuine laugh cannot be produced on demand. A genuine stretch requires a little skill. But when you believe in the power of laughing and stretching, you create opportunities to trigger your endorphin in these ways.

#5 Cortisol (Survive, then thrive)

Cortisol feels bad. It alerts animals to urgent survival threats. Our big brain alerts us to subtle threats as well as urgent ones. The bad feeling of cortisol will always be part of life because your survival is threatened as long as you’re alive.
Cortisol especially grabs your attention when it’s not being masked by happy chemicals. You might have a sudden bad feeling when yourhappy chemicals dip, even though there’s no predator at your door.
If you can’t get comfortable with that, you might rush to mask it with any happy-chemical stimulant you’re familiar with. Your well-being will suffer. You will lose the information the cortisol is trying to give you, and your happy habit will have side effects. More cortisol will flow, thus increasing the temptation to over-stimulate your happy chemicals.
This vicious cycle can be avoided if you learn to accept the bad feeling you get when a happy chemical surge is over. It doesn’t mean something is wrong. Cortisol is part of your mammalian steering mechanism, which motivates an organism to approach rewards and avoid threats. You need unhappy chemicals to warn you of potential harm as much as you need happy chemicals to alert you to potential rewards.
If you learn to accept your cortisol, you will be free from the rush to mask it in ways that don’t serve you. You will make better decisions and end up with more happy chemicals.

Building New Happy Habits

Your brain got wired from past experience. Each time your neurochemicals surged, your neurons built connections. Experience wired you to turn on your brain chemicals in the ways they turned on in the past.
When you’re young, your neurons build new connections easily. After eighteen, it’s not easy to build new circuits to turn on in new ways. It takes a lot of repetition. So pick a new happy habit and start repeating it. Over time, your new happy habits will feel as natural as your old ones, and you won’t have the unfortunate side effects.

All retrieved from:
http://blogs.psychcentral.com/nlp/2016/02/five-ways-to-boost-your-natural-happy-chemicals/

Happy new year to all my readers

This is how I spent my holiday :)
For me, reading is a stress-free activity.
I really enjoy it. It is important to find coping strategies for dealing with stress.
How about you? Are you managing your stress, or has it mastered you?
Think about it;)

BTW, Happy Chinese New Year!
May this New Year bring new hopes and reasons to celebrate your presence in your life. 
No matter how wrong you may feel now, it's okay to feel down sometimes.
Just like waves, our emotions rise and fall in an unconscious manner. 

As we grow, different problems demand different solutions.
Your life will begins once you step outside of your comfort zone.
I wish nothing but the best for you.

Thanks the National Cancer Society Malaysia for the wish!
Kindly support them!



Tuesday, February 2, 2016

马来西亚临床催眠师手记‬-社交恐惧症状


这案子让我印象深刻,当事人因为社交恐惧症状找上我。

他因为这个问题导致无法在大家面前演讲,甚至还因为经常在外面对人群时严重脸红而到皮肤科进行治疗。

我运用回溯法让他问题的根源浮出水面;原来是童年阴影造成他害怕成为别人的焦点。于是我运用催眠疗法把那段回忆进行更新,目的也是为了更新记忆里那未处理的阴影。或许很多时候我们知道问题的根源,但如果没有去正视和更新那段我们尘封的记忆,阴影会如鬼魅般一直纠缠和影响我们的生活。

但,去正视它谈而容易呢?
别自己轻易的去尝试接触这段导致你阴影的回忆,那可能会引起恶梦连连或者歇斯底里症状发生。这就是为什么我需要小心的运用许多心理治疗和催眠技巧来处理这类问题。


一般分类

1、一般社交恐惧症
一般社交恐怖症,在任何地方,任何情境中,都会害怕自己成了别人注意的中心;总感觉周围每个人都在看着自己,观察自己的每个小动作;害怕被介绍给陌生人,甚至害怕在公共场所进餐、喝饮料;尽可能回避去商场和进餐馆;从不敢和老板、同事或任何人进行争论,捍卫自己的权利。
2、特殊社交恐惧症
表现为对某些特殊的情境或场合特别恐惧。比如,害怕当众发言,当众表演。尽管如此,在别的社交场合,却并不感到恐怖。推销员、演员、教师、音乐演奏家,等等,经常都会有特殊社交恐怖症。他们在与别人的一般交往中,并没有什么异常,可是当他们需要上台表演,或者当众演讲时,他们会感到极度的恐惧,常常变得结结巴巴,甚至楞在当场。   
这两类社交恐怖症都有类似的躯体症状:口干、出汗、心跳剧烈、想上厕所。周围的人可能会看到的症状有:红脸、口吃结巴、轻微战抖。有时候,患者发现自己呼吸急促,手脚冰凉。结果是,患者会进入惊恐状态。

详细分类

社交恐怖又可细分为许多种,其中最常见的有以下几种。
社交恐惧症社交恐惧症图册
1、赤面恐惧
一般人在众人面前时,经常会由于害羞或不好意思而脸红,但赤面恐惧患者却对此过度焦虑,感到在人前脸红是十分羞耻的事,最后由于症状固着下来,则非常畏惧到众人面前。
患者一直努力掩饰自己的赤面,尽量不被人觉察,并因此十分苦恼。患者惧怕到众人面前,比如,在乘公共车时,总感到自己处在众人注视之下,终于连公共车也不敢乘。
2、视线恐惧
患者主诉与别人见面时不能正视对方,自己的视线与对方的视线相遇就感到非常难堪,以至于眼睛不知看哪儿才好。患者一味注意视线的事情,并急于强迫自己稳定下来,但往往事与愿违,终于不能集中注意力与对方交谈,谈话前言不搭后语,而且往往失去常态。
有的视线恐惧患者与许多人同在一个房间时,主诉不能注意自己对面的人,而强迫得注意旁边其他人的视线,或认为自己的视线朝向旁边的人而使其感到不快。结果患者的精力无法集中于对面的人。有的学生患者在上课时,总是不能自已的去注意自己旁边的同学,或总感到旁边的同学在注意自己,结果影响了上课,并给自己带来无比的痛苦。
3、表情恐惧
患者总担心自己的面部表情会引起别人的反感,或被人看不起,对此慌恐不安。表情恐惧多与眼神有关。患者认为自己眼神令其他人生畏,或认为自己的眼神毫无光彩等。
4、异性恐惧
主要症状与前几种情况大致相同,只是患者在与异性或者自己领导上级接触时,症状尤其严重,感到极大的压迫感,不知所措,甚至连话也说不出来。与自己熟识的同性及一般同事交往则不存在多大问题。
5、口吃恐惧
口吃恐惧可归类于社交恐惧的一种。患者本人独自朗读时,没有什么异常,但到别人面前时,谈话就难以进行,或开始发音障碍或才说到一半儿,就说不下去了,患者对此忧心忡忡,因不能顺利地与人交谈而感到自己是个残缺的人,终于因此而非常苦恼。

社交恐惧症 - 诊断标准

A、在不熟悉的人们面前或被他人注意或观察时(可能如此),害怕自己可能会作出一些使人难堪的行为或表现出焦虑症状。
B、处于所害怕的社交场合,几乎不可避免地产生焦虑,并可能出现仅限于此情境的惊恐发作。
C、患者认知到这种害怕是不合理的或过度的。
D、患者一般都设法避免这种情景,否则便以极度的焦虑或痛苦忍受着。
E、这种对恐惧情景的避免、焦虑的期待、或害怕反应,显著地干扰个人的生活、工作或社交,或者对于患有恐惧症感到的精神痛苦。
F、如患者年龄小于18岁,应至少6个月病程。
G、这种害怕或回避不是由于某种物质或一般性躯体状况所致的直接生理性反应,并排除其他精神障碍而引起的焦虑或恐惧性回避。
H、如存在某种一般躯体情况或其他精神障碍,那么他的害怕也与之无关,例如不是害怕自己的口吃、帕金森病的震颤、或神经性厌食或贪食症的异常进食行为。


资料来源:
http://www.baike.com/wiki/%E7%A4%BE%E4%BA%A4%E6%81%90%E6%83%A7%E7%97%87